{"id":599,"date":"2016-05-31T08:39:03","date_gmt":"2016-05-31T15:39:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.com\/blog\/?p=599"},"modified":"2016-05-31T08:39:03","modified_gmt":"2016-05-31T15:39:03","slug":"the-secret-to-happy-goals-stop-comparing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/the-secret-to-happy-goals-stop-comparing\/","title":{"rendered":"The secret to happy goals – stop comparing"},"content":{"rendered":"

What do you desire? \u00a0Do you have unmet aspirations? \u00a0Do you view time as your most valuable resource? \u00a0These three questions and a few others\u00a0greet you\u00a0 when you first land on the Chalten website. \u00a0\u00a0Of course the answers to “What do you desire?” are as varied as there are people but where people seek their answers can be\u00a0a key determinant of\u00a0happiness. \u00a0Sometimes people look around them for inspiration. \u00a0I want to be like them. \u00a0I want to have a house like that family. \u00a0I want to go on vacations where they go. \u00a0Comparing your situation to that of your neighbours or your friends is unlikely to lead to happiness. \u00a0Mark Twain once said that “Comparison is the death of joy.” Here are some of the reasons why:<\/p>\n

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  1. Other people aren’t you – just because someone else has chosen a certain path, it doesn’t mean that path will be right for you. \u00a0It may not make you happy and in fact, it may not even make them happy.<\/li>\n
  2. You don’t know how other people finance their lifestyle. \u00a0You’d be equally surprised both by how many invisibly wealthy people there are\u00a0and\u00a0by how many invisibly indebted people there are.<\/li>\n
  3. Comparison is a never-ending game, a race with no finish line and no winners<\/li>\n
  4. You can waste a lot of time and energy comparing yourself to\u00a0others – time is too valuable to waste on such destructive past times.<\/li>\n
  5. Comparing yourself to others can lead to resentment and jealousy.<\/li>\n
  6. Comparison isn’t fair – people have different backgrounds, different opportunities, different luck and different outcomes, many of which can’t be controlled.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    What might\u00a0we do instead?<\/p>\n

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    1. Focus on what you can control and don’t worry about what you can’t.<\/li>\n
    2. By all means make a plan but live in the moment. Don’t resent the past or lose yourself in a dream of the future that might not be attainable.<\/li>\n
    3. Value experience and time with people over stuff. \u00a0Don’t rely on stuff to make you happy. (Getting rid of stuff can be\u00a0liberating:).<\/li>\n
    4. Recognize that time is always the\u00a0most valuable commodity. \u00a0Time is like money only<\/span> in that it’s present value is higher than it’s future value. \u00a0Enjoy time now!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Just some thoughts. \u00a0Different goals make different people happy. \u00a0Perhaps above all, remember that\u00a0it is within your power to choose to be happy with your situation and your goals. \u00a0Happiness lies within.<\/p>\n

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      What do you desire? \u00a0Do you have unmet aspirations? \u00a0Do you view time as your most valuable resource? \u00a0These three questions and a few others\u00a0greet you\u00a0 when you first land on the Chalten website. \u00a0\u00a0Of course the answers to “What do you desire?” are as varied as there are people but where people seek their […]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,19,7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-599","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all-posts","category-financial-planning","category-graham-bodel-posts"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/599","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=599"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/599\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":601,"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/599\/revisions\/601"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=599"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=599"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chaltenadvisors.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=599"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}